Advice from Current Foster Families: The Challenges and Rewards of Fostering (Part Two)


“We have been foster parents for a little over a year and currently have five children. The biggest initial challenge was bringing these kids into our home and learning how they work and how they respond to us, and us to them. 

Above it all, it is imperative to remember that these children want to thrive. If you give them the tools they need and encourage them constantly, they will succeed. We have one child who was really struggling in school. With the help of tutors and one-on-one attention at school, she began to consistently earn good grades. It was hard work for all of us, but it worth every moment. She is now ready to move on to the next grade in school. She is very proud of herself and enjoys learning now. 

One assumption we had was that we would only be fostering the children and would have little to no involvement with their families. However, we have found that in many cases, you are involved in fostering the entire family. God will use you as a tool to rebuild these broken families — not only their children. 

Our advice to new and prospective foster parents is to pray hard about your decision! Don’t go into fostering thinking that you will get something out of it. You have to be in it 100% for the kids. Fostering is a challenge every single day, but know that you aren’t alone. Reach out to others who foster — they understand what you are going through. Above all, have an open heart and an open mind to the kids and their families. If you start off judging their lives, then you will never connect with them.

The biggest reward for us so far is seeing our kids succeed in school, sports, etc. So many of them came to us with challenges in school and social situation, or with low self-esteem. Seeing them blossom and grow with a sense of self-pride and confidence is amazing to watch.” 

— Kellie and Troy Carter